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PostSubject: when it rains it poors <venting about rl>   Fri Jul 16, 2010 12:29 pm

as many of you know I am a disabled American veteran, and what a few of you knew I am making known here. i sit at home all day due to disabilities i cant work so my veterans affairs disability check pays my bills barely but this month i did not receive my disability check so i have not paid any bills Rent, internet, electric. i am not asking for money or sympathy. i am just making it know that if i disappear one day and don't return for awhile it is not because of any of you, however i love this guild and i wont leave it unless i am kicked out. and even then i may bug you until you let me in. but the reason i say it poors is today i was suppose to got to an appointment to see someone who could help me with my bills for this month but my dad stopped by to give me a ride and when we went to leave his truck wouldn't start i missed my appointment usually i would have just drove myself or walked but my jeep blew the engine around the 3rd of the month and my soon to be ex-wife sold it and kept the money. even tho i had bills and the kids to worry about. yes i have 2 boys cody and connor both from my previous marriage and heck for the past 2 weeks they were the ones eating until yesterday when i fixed one of my neighbors pc. i used that 50 bucks to buy food with. i am not meaning to rant like this but i just need to vent. that and i felt that this would be the best time to give everyone my background and to let every one know no ones life is sunshine. oh and did i mention i was working for a bit under the table so i had money for other things besides rent like food and cloths but this damn oil spill fucked that up. I am not suppose to be working not because it would cut my disability pay which it wouldn't, but because i have spine damage and the tendons in my knee look like swiss cheese. they want to do surgery on my back and my knee but i wont let them the risks are to high i have known to many soldiers go in for those operations and not walk again or be in more pain than they started with and im sorry with 4 and 5 y/o boys i want to be able to wrestle with them when i can got teach them baseball foot ball hell they both already know how to fish cause i taught them. the docs keep telling me the more i strain work walk what ever the worse my problems will be. but in my book that's better than going in for some damn surgery that army quacks are going to perform and possible be in more pain now and not be able to walk again. if you have any questions i will be glad to address them no matter what it is on ie. my back problems, knees , post-traumatic stress disorder Iraq. i do ask you one thing tho DO NOT ask me if i killed any one please it is hard enough sharing that information with the ones i trust and feel comfortable telling. sorry again this post so long and again i am not asking for sympathy or anything.
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PostSubject: Re: when it rains it poors <venting about rl>   Sat Jul 17, 2010 11:07 am

Vulpes,

That was really nice that you are so open and honest with our guild and I appreciate that. I am glad to have you as a member of TGO and am glad to hear you are enjoying being a part of this guild. I happen to love it too! Smile I just wanted to open up myself a little in response to your post. I am graduating this August with a Master's in Occupational therapy, so I have see the difficulties of what life can be like with a disability or even chronic pain. I know it's gotta be tough so hang in there. If you disappear I will be sure to keep you on the roster for when you return. If for some reason something happened you would just need to whisper someone to get back in, but that rarely accidentally happens. I also want you to know that my OT department took a great interest in Veterans and how OT's can be a part of their life and help them. One of my professors did a thesis on it, focusing more on the mental health every day life issues of veterans coming back from the war. Simple things like sleeping or driving or eating certain foods it seems can be more difficult when returning home. I read the book, Rule Number Two, which is an excellent book written by a psychologist who served in the Iraq war who left her baby twins at home. I would suggest anyone interested to learn a little bit more about the subject read it. I for one am not a military type person, meaning no one in my family ever served or anything like that, and that's why I found the book so fascinating to get a small glimpse of that world I know so little about. Anyway, just wanted you to know Vulpes again that I appreciate you being so open and honest and for really doing a good job being a team player in TGO and for doing what you can at home to make things work. I hope everything works out for you (and that you get your bills paid so you can keep sieging with us!) If I can ever help you with any advice let me know! I got a lot of knowledge medically with certain things. And this goes for anyone. I'm always willing to share what I know. I hear you on the concern with surgery too, it is smart to always weight the benefits from the risks and often we recommend trying out other things before surgery. Maybe therapy could even help you? Not sure what exactly you are dealing with but OT's work in the realm of pain management.

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PostSubject: Re: when it rains it poors <venting about rl>   Sun Jul 18, 2010 10:34 am

thank you so much Kiya i needed hearing that.
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PostSubject: Re: when it rains it poors <venting about rl>   Sun Jul 18, 2010 1:10 pm

I fell your pain. The last company I worked for decided to get rid of me over a friend of theirs. For several months I had to live off my savings and handouts from family. I am also a veteran (although not collecting any benifits yet). Hope things get better for you real soon, and ope to see you ingame.
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PostSubject: Re: when it rains it poors <venting about rl>   Mon Jul 19, 2010 2:37 am

ty for the support honoka. if there is anything i can do to help you with VA let me know i will try to help.
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PostSubject: Re: when it rains it poors <venting about rl>   Wed Jul 21, 2010 4:59 pm

vulpes all i can say is everything that happens in peoples lives have a purpose this is what ive learned

for example the common bully they hit u but the next time you get hit by someone it wont hurt as much get what im saying you learn and grow from the pain and suffering that happens to you and it makes you stronger weve all went through our fair share of pain in our lives and we say why me god? well we dont know why but it will help us one day and make ourselves strong like when people call me a fail tank all i hear is keep trying harder and thats what i do Smile
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PostSubject: Re: when it rains it poors <venting about rl>   Wed Jul 21, 2010 6:00 pm

thank you king verry kind words and i know i am trying my hardest to get through this but if i cant and i do loose everything i do know of at least one true friend that will help me out as much as possible. and i thank everyone in TGO for their support i have known a few that have just ran with me in game and asked me hows life knowing i would vent and they would listen and i thank them for that. i know i am still really new to this game but i have played games like this for 16 years and all the guilds i have ever been in this one has the best leadership and seems more like family than any other i have been in and there are a lot of them. with the many games i have played pvp or gvg or alliance vs alliance i have been either in a leadership role or tactical adviser due to the attention to detail i give to every battle. which i plan and have been giving to our siege wars but if i go missing any point between now and the first know that i will be back and i am trying to get back because i love battle. and i love the TGO team for their support they have shown me.
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PostSubject: Re: when it rains it poors <venting about rl>   Wed Jul 21, 2010 10:02 pm

It is our original founder and my leader that set up The Golden Order to be like family. We all have an important role in keeping it that way and continuing to be like a family. In the induction ceremony tonight, I missed Verinon more than at any other point. I had to act as leader and sit in his seat to welcome chronoforce and another guild to The Golden Alliance. I had Batelo do most of the leading, but I did say one important thing. The leader of Chronoforce said that they have very little to give. I said to him, as I have heard my leader say before, that if we add that little bit to the little bit that each of us can give, we come up with something even greater and more awesome than we already have.

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PostSubject: Re: when it rains it poors <venting about rl>   Sat Jul 24, 2010 12:48 am

A very good tip i once got i now give to all of you: RL SUCKS! THATS WHY THERES MMOS! Clapping

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PostSubject: Re: when it rains it poors <venting about rl>   Sat Jul 24, 2010 2:25 am

until RL takes those away. but your right about it
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PostSubject: Re: when it rains it poors <venting about rl>   Sat Jul 24, 2010 11:31 am

yep Sad

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